The New Normal : What Are we Missing

Things we are missing because of work from home:

1. We miss sharing our lunch together

 

2. We miss our team meeting.

3.We miss our chairs and desk

4. We miss those pantry breaks

5. We miss those sutta chai breaks

6. We miss our long conversation with office bffs

7. We miss chatting with our desk buddies and colleagues passing by

8. Team bonding through those offices activities and team meals

9. We miss our client meetings

10.We miss those relaxing putting on our headphones listening toh the beats while traveling.

Ahh!! We never knew we will miss it !!.

Why are We So Different

Like a son, even we daughters concentrated on studies and our life only, before getting married. Still we are 'trained enough' to complete all the household task. Why are we expected that we forget our lifestyle and our family values, our parents teachings and adjust. 

Our way of living or working is different but it is not incorrect for sure. 

Long lectures and fights when husbands are asked to get the lunch served for himself or wipe a table or wash the dishes or sometimes make a small meal. Why is that so. This is your house too and doing his things on your own would only make you self-sufficient. Otherwise it would just boost my importance and give you a fake ego and respect. 

Just because you are my husband and i showed my point of view accordingly i became a nasty woman trying to defend her husband and came in between a son and a mother. Instead If i had defended a brother i know there would not been such a reaction but Just because it was a husband they took it otherwise why is the word HUSBAND itself so much taken otherwise. 

This is 2020. All woman are educated, mature and well independent, no one will ever take so much by staying quiet no matter if its in law or your own mother.

Six parenting tips for millennial parents

As the time changes the old school on how to raise your child has changed drastically.

Few tips on how to improve your parenting skill as millennial parents: 

1. Ask your child how they want to dress up or make their hair.

2.Do not treat Report cards like statements of a child’s personal worth. Remember there is always a next time.

3. Let your child select who they should be friends with, remember being happy and having a sense of purpose in life is more important. May be the friendship they chose inspires them to chase their dreams

4. Never always look for compliance from your child. Healthy parents see their child as a separate, and allow separateness and individuation in their children.

5. As a millennial parent do not care about the name of the college your child attends. A healthy parent is "I’m not sure what kind of school they’ll go to, but I'll be there to support as they choses.

6. Do not have an unofficial list of acceptable professions for your child to choose. Those degree are just a ghost which might make your child end up in something which isn't fit for them.

Lastly, Advice your child but do not interfere too much. Discipline your child but don't dominate. Let your child follow his instincts, its either a lesson learnt or a success !!

professionalism at the workplace Let us understand the new Idea

It’s high time that we start treating human more as a human rather than a resource Professionalism. We are always told to be professional at work. One should not mix professional life with their personal life. No matter how much f&#ked up our personal life is but we always have to show up at work with professional attitude as if nothing has happened. But deep inside we know how much broken we are...Everywhere I hear this that colleagues are colleagues they can't be your friends... Seniors are seniors you must not argue with them. Whatever they say we have to accept. They are more experienced than us hence they know better and etc etc dialogues...It’s high time that we start treating human more as a human rather than a resource...

1.    Those who are more of a friendly nature give them more leadership roles:
I have noticed people who handles everything with their dictator skills, they are given more leadership roles however those who have friendly skills and are polite in their attitude they are not given much leadership roles... Its high time that we understand that slavery and controlling attitude of making work done should not exist anymore....For example if someone is a slow performer instead of taking that person to the meeting room, throwing out questions and creating a pressured like environment in closed doors.. one can ask the person for a cup of tea and inter-personally ask the problem he or she is facing at work, also motivate the person to work properly so that he/she can be rewarded appropriately.. And Mind it!! There is big difference between motivating someone and scaring the hell out of someone..

2.    Let your colleagues say their heart out at work so that they can feel comfortable
Why can't we say about our personal problems at work....work place is our second home, we spend more time here than at home. You are giving someone piles of work but you might already be knowing that the person is not able to focus in his work because he is facing some personal troubles.. And he is not able to say this in a fear of being judged as unprofessional or even if he says people deny it saying you have to be professional at work and this is when the mental stress and pressure starts arising..

3.    If the employee is going through a tough time then understand the situation
For example he might be having a mother at home who is seriously ill and there might be lots of personal calls to attend and he is constantly thinking about her mother but at the same time you are giving this person with piles of work to finish. Work pressure should be according to the situation when you know that this guy has a mother who is seriously ill then why do we pressure him with so much of work.

4.    Understand we are human beings as well 

I have faced lot of interviews and in most of the interviews i felt that these people are not focusing on my skills rather they are thinking if i am ready to give up on my life for the company... Its high time that we stop thinking in such a way and stop taking Professionalism too much seriously...  Somewhere i read that change is required and of course it is required...
I can't resist myself from writing as I am a working professional in a MNC.